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Conflict of
recognition and lack of protection from mom and from a much lower percentage,
dad.
Addictions are
always conflicts with mom, because she was our first "addiction" and
the most important thing in life. So what we are addicted brings us back to
that love, recognition and protection of mom we had and lost, or that we never
had (in this case addiction is usually more compulsive).
If I present
some kind of addiction, whether drugs, alcohol, tobacco, tranquilizers, etc.
means I need my mom is on my side to face a challenge. It's my way to ask for
help from mom in the wrong way. I want her to see me "victim" because
only then will help me.
And they can
be as simple things like facing my adolescence, get ahead of a school or
professional problem. No age. And of course Mom is not always there for me.
Addictions are related to the unsaid (a-diction). I have no right to speak. I
do not have the ability to express myself. So if I do not express my needs, it
will be easier for me to confront all with drugs.
Conflict:
Protection, Mom. Always in an environment of "escape from reality"
for fear of not being able to face this situation.
"Are my
parents going to come to help me? Do you not see that I'm suffering, I'm
dying?". "I am not able to cope with this situation".
"With
this (drug) I feel strong". "With a cigarette I feel safe".
"With a glass I feel safe". "At a dose I feel safe".
"With a pill I feel safe".
Every
addiction tries to avoid contact with the emotion underlying the conflict. It
can be a feeling of existential emptiness, lack of love, feeling lonely,
feeling disconnected from our higher self, etc. Our reality makes us suffer and
addiction masks our suffering temporarily.
There are many
types of addictions.
Some of them
are considered harmful for society, such as: the tobacco, alcohol, drugs, etc.
However, there are others that are considered good, but used for the same
purpose, among which we can include work, money, knowledge, success, etc.
Behind every
addiction, hidden in the depths of Being, there is a longing for love, for
spiritual nourishment, freedom, communication, contact with others, etc; that
our soul needs and that our personality, for lack of courage or responsibility,
seeks us a substitute the more we give of ourselves to him/her, more
dissatisfaction and frustration produces to us.
The obese
satisfies his/her "hunger" of love with food and does not realize
that the more he/she eats, the more hungry he/she is.
The alcoholic
craves love, comfort, sweetness and "drowns his/her sorrows in wine",
"if you drink a sip you will feel better". But he/she does not face
their conflicts consciously. Shirks his/her responsibilities with the desire to
remain being an irresponsible child and not being punished. And wine gives you
the world you want, but in an illusory form.
"I lack
warmth, comfort and tenderness".
"I need
love, but what they have given me so far has not been good for me".
"I want
another form of affection, tenderly, softly".
In many cases
alcoholics were unwanted children, even if it was for a moment.
Therefore, the
person seeks to hurt himself/herself and be a victim to challenge the parent to
"love him/her ".
And in the
vast majority of cases they do, because the mother or father are concerned,
they keep, and welcome him/her home to give him/her money for his/her alcohol.
Other
conflicts that can lead us to alcoholism:
Escaping from
a reality that we find unacceptable, to forget.
Father
separation conflict.
Way of
expressing the truths that must remain silent before the family (drunks always
tell the truth).
Attempt to
join Mom and Dad.
"I want
to take my mother's clan from despair".
The tobacco
addict tries to satisfy with it his/her desire for communication (freedom) and
approach to his/her mother (territory). Smokers trying to create that freedom
and communication (that they do not have with his/her mother), smoking.
It is common
for the mother of a smoker is a strong mother who assumes that her child is
strong, that in no way expected see him or her fail. Therefore the person,
wants to fill that void of maternal affection (territory) with
"smoke". I live in a situation of solitude and selfishly need to hold
on to something.
"I feel
away from the territory, I am away from my mother".
"I feel
invaded in the territory, invaded by my mother".
"I feel
depressed, trapped".
There are
mothers who show their love, giving kisses and hugs but, however, when the
child asks for something or ask something, the mother does not consider it
important or takes it as if it were a joke, to which the child feels that
he/she is not loved or respected. The mother says things like, "You and
your things", "Oh, that's not important".
What is the
biological excitement hidden in a tobacco addict?
"I'm
afraid to live, to face reality".
"I flee
from myself".
"I'm
afraid to fail".
"I cannot
love myself, much less express it".
Workaholism:
Conflict of abandonment. Belief that "I am what I do" and need for
recognition "Mom (or Dad) did not recognize me". Conflict of
emotional deprivation. Need to prove to my parents that I'm good for something.
Avarice:
Conflict keeping the piece (bite). "If I give, I run out”
Success
Addiction: Conflict of abandonment and recognition. "Mom left me or does
not recognize me".
Gambling:
Abandonment and recognition. Need to "win" the love of mom. Belief
that the award will enable us to free ourselves from our needs.
Collector:
Devaluation. Feeling incomplete, "not good", "I complete myself
through my collections".
Record
fanatic: Devaluation. Desire and need to prove that I can be the best at
something.
Sex addiction:
Conflicts of abandonment. Need to return to the mother or father, to have
protection. Inability to self pleasure provided. I am not a product of love but
of pleasure, I was conceived in sin. Or you can also respond to an attempt to
offset the sexual life that my parents wanted to have but could not.
Another
widespread one and persecuted in our time is addiction to drugs: hashish,
heroin, cocaine, tranquilizers and other more dangerous that are used as a
means for transcendental experiences; generally they are represented as a
shelter that isolates us from life and others. Everything looks better with
them. Conflicts are not such after consuming the drug because it takes us to
"another place", or stimulates us enormously, and all for not facing
the reality of living the embodiment according to the designs of our soul and
assuming that civilization is the mirror showing us our own portrait.
"The real
world is very painful and I do not want it".
"Everyday
life is unbearable, I want new and wonderful things".
"I do not
want to relate to a person of my environment, so I break everything".
The desire to
travel to other dimensions of consciousness we have to win with the effort to
develop the soul and spirit and to achieve this, our will is imperative. With
drugs, the ability to make decisions consciously and the individual's will
dissipate.
Drugs and
tranquilizers, are related to the feeling of feeling away, separated or ignored
by mom or dad. It is very common for children with absent mother or father fall
into drugs or tranquilizers, because these substances make them evade their
"abandonment", which often is not physical. They may be children of
parents who are never home either, although they are, ignore their child. This
is on drugs, finding a way to avoid that pain.
Addiction to
cocaine: Conflict of fear to social interaction linked to a desire to do it and
not to know. Conflict of introversion.
Conflict with
a father who overwhelms me, crushes me, does not protect me or devalues me.
"I want to replace my father," "I hate my father".
Addiction
to marijuana: Drug of the "mother" (Maria, comes from the
"mother" land and is consumed naturally). The uterus
secretes a cannabinoid (anandamina) that if it is not collected by the bone
there will be a failed pregnancy.
We are alive for the cannabinoid and marijuana contains cannabinoid.
Adolescence represents a second birth. Why should I be born?
Addiction to
haschish: Conflicts linked to assassinations and wars.
Addiction to
heroin: It gives the impression of great energy and optimism.
Conflict of
the "hero" separated, the one that I am not. I defrauded someone.
Conflict of
separation of the sex.
Addiction to
morphine: I cannot stand suffering.
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