Conflict of recognition and
lack of protection from mom and from a much lower percentage, dad.
Addictions are always
conflicts with mom, because she was our first "addiction" and the
most important thing in life. So what we are addicted brings us back to that love,
recognition and protection of mom we had and lost, or that we never had (in
this case addiction is usually more compulsive).
If I present some kind of
addiction, whether drugs, alcohol, tobacco, tranquilizers, etc. means I need my
mom is on my side to face a challenge. It's my way to ask for help from mom in
the wrong way. I want her to see me "victim" because only then will
help me.
And they can be as simple
things like facing my adolescence, get ahead of a school or professional
problem. No age. And of course Mom is not always there for me. Addictions are
related to the unsaid (a-diction). I have no right to speak. I do not have the
ability to express myself. So if I do not express my needs, it will be easier
for me to confront all with drugs.
Conflict: Protection, Mom.
Always in an environment of "escape from reality" for fear of not
being able to face this situation.
"Are my parents going to
come to help me? Do you not see that I'm suffering, I'm dying?". "I
am not able to cope with this situation".
"With this (drug) I feel
strong". "With a cigarette I feel safe". "With a glass I
feel safe". "At a dose I feel safe". "With a pill I feel
safe".
Every addiction tries to avoid
contact with the emotion underlying the conflict. It can be a feeling of existential
emptiness, lack of love, feeling lonely, feeling disconnected from our higher
self, etc. Our reality makes us suffer and addiction masks our suffering
temporarily.
There are many types of
addictions.
Some of them are considered
harmful for society, such as: the tobacco, alcohol, drugs, etc. However, there
are others that are considered good, but used for the same purpose, among which
we can include work, money, knowledge, success, etc.
Behind every addiction, hidden
in the depths of Being, there is a longing for love, for spiritual nourishment,
freedom, communication, contact with others, etc; that our soul needs and that
our personality, for lack of courage or responsibility, seeks us a substitute
the more we give of ourselves to him/her, more dissatisfaction and frustration
produces to us.
The obese
satisfies his/her "hunger" of love with food and does not realize
that the more he/she eats, the more hungry he/she is.
The alcoholic craves love,
comfort, sweetness and "drowns his/her sorrows in wine", "if you
drink a sip you will feel better". But he/she does not face their
conflicts consciously. Shirks his/her responsibilities with the desire to remain
being an irresponsible child and not being punished. And wine gives you the
world you want, but in an illusory form.
"I lack warmth, comfort
and tenderness".
"I need love, but what
they have given me so far has not been good for me".
"I want another form of
affection, tenderly, softly".
In many cases alcoholics were
unwanted children, even if it was for a moment.
Therefore, the person seeks to
hurt himself/herself and be a victim to challenge the parent to "love
him/her ".
And in the vast majority of
cases they do, because the mother or father are concerned, they keep, and
welcome him/her home to give him/her money for his/her alcohol.
Other conflicts that can lead
us to alcoholism:
Escaping from a reality that
we find unacceptable, to forget.
Father separation conflict.
Way of expressing the truths
that must remain silent before the family (drunks always tell the truth).
Attempt to join Mom and Dad.
"I want to take my
mother's clan from despair".
The tobacco addict tries to
satisfy with it his/her desire for communication (freedom) and approach to
his/her mother (territory). Smokers trying to create that freedom and
communication (that they do not have with his/her mother), smoking.
It is common for the mother of
a smoker is a strong mother who assumes that her child is strong, that in no
way expected see him or her fail. Therefore the person, wants to fill that void
of maternal affection (territory) with "smoke". I live in a situation
of solitude and selfishly need to hold on to something.
"I feel away from the
territory, I am away from my mother".
"I feel invaded in the
territory, invaded by my mother".
"I feel depressed,
trapped".
There are mothers who show
their love, giving kisses and hugs but, however, when the child asks for
something or ask something, the mother does not consider it important or takes
it as if it were a joke, to which the child feels that he/she is not loved or
respected. The mother says things like, "You and your things",
"Oh, that's not important".
What is the biological
excitement hidden in a tobacco addict?
"I'm afraid to live, to
face reality".
"I flee from
myself".
"I'm afraid to
fail".
"I cannot love myself,
much less express it".
Workaholism: Conflict of
abandonment. Belief that "I am what I do" and need for recognition
"Mom (or Dad) did not recognize me". Conflict of emotional
deprivation. Need to prove to my parents that I'm good for something.
Avarice: Conflict keeping the
piece (bite). "If I give, I run out”
Success Addiction: Conflict of
abandonment and recognition. "Mom left me or does not recognize me".
Gambling: Abandonment and
recognition. Need to "win" the love of mom. Belief that the award
will enable us to free ourselves from our needs.
Collector: Devaluation.
Feeling incomplete, "not good", "I complete myself through my collections".
Record fanatic: Devaluation.
Desire and need to prove that I can be the best at something.
Sex addiction: Conflicts of
abandonment. Need to return to the mother or father, to have protection.
Inability to self pleasure provided. I am not a product of love but of
pleasure, I was conceived in sin. Or you can also respond to an attempt to
offset the sexual life that my parents wanted to have but could not.
Another widespread one and
persecuted in our time is addiction to drugs: hashish, heroin, cocaine,
tranquilizers and other more dangerous that are used as a means for
transcendental experiences; generally they are represented as a shelter that
isolates us from life and others. Everything looks better with them. Conflicts
are not such after consuming the drug because it takes us to "another
place", or stimulates us enormously, and all for not facing the reality of
living the embodiment according to the designs of our soul and assuming that
civilization is the mirror showing us our own portrait.
"The real world is very
painful and I do not want it".
"Everyday life is
unbearable, I want new and wonderful things".
"I do not want to relate
to a person of my environment, so I break everything".
The desire to travel to other
dimensions of consciousness we have to win with the effort to develop the soul
and spirit and to achieve this, our will is imperative. With drugs, the ability
to make decisions consciously and the individual's will dissipate.
Drugs and tranquilizers, are
related to the feeling of feeling away, separated or ignored by mom or dad. It
is very common for children with absent mother or father fall into drugs or
tranquilizers, because these substances make them evade their "abandonment",
which often is not physical. They may be children of parents who are never home
either, although they are, ignore their child. This is on drugs, finding a way
to avoid that pain.
Addiction to cocaine: Conflict
of fear to social interaction linked to a desire to do it and not to know.
Conflict of introversion.
Conflict with a father who
overwhelms me, crushes me, does not protect me or devalues me. "I want
to replace my father," "I hate my father".
Addiction to marijuana: Drug
of the "mother" (Maria, comes from the "mother" land and is
consumed naturally). The uterus secretes a cannabinoid (anandamina) that if it
is not collected by the bone there will be a failed
pregnancy. We are alive for the cannabinoid and marijuana contains
cannabinoid. Adolescence represents a second birth. Why should I be born?
Addiction to haschish:
Conflicts linked to assassinations and wars.
Addiction to heroin: It gives
the impression of great energy and optimism.
Conflict of the
"hero" separated, the one that I am not. I defrauded someone.
Conflict of separation of the
sex.
Addiction to morphine: I
cannot stand suffering.
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