It is a decreased
appetite resulting in thinning, which can become so severe that take the person
to the total malnutrition and cause death.
Anorexia is a typically
female disease, appearing frequently when the girl is maturing and has to face
the stage of sexual development.
It often appears to
coincide with a stage that holds deep conflicts with their parents, especially
her mother.
"(symbolic) Mom’s
food is toxic"
It is overprotective
mothers who constantly monitor their daughters.
"My mother
controls my life, my space, my identity".
Love, affection,
emotional nutrition that they offer me is indigestible and unacceptable;
therefore "I do not eat”.
The relationship we
have with food is a true reflection of the relationship we had with our mother
when we were fed.
The child associates
from the beginning the ideas of food and love.
Anorexia states that
the relationship of affection, love and protection that the child experiences
when being breastfed has not been satisfactory.
Either because it has
been an unwanted child or the mother she would have preferred a boy instead of
a girl, or vice versa.
As a result the mother
is not at home when the child breastfeeds, not shown warm and loving, but quite
the opposite, cold and absent, only out of necessity. And so the child sees,
feels rejected.
So unconsciously keeps
the memory of that food is not attractive, is not healthy; rather it is
repulsive.
As the relationship
with food expresses the relationship to life, the child loses confidence in
this.
This rejection of life
is manifested in the patient in different ways: Refuses to eat physical food or
eat things of little nutritional value. When you are alone, a circumstance that
fail to eat all that is, not to withhold food and expels herself provoking
vomiting. Also, she often practices some form of physical exercise or takes
specific substances to remove fat and stay well thin.
The rejection of food
can be so severe that leads to total destruction sick, and cause death.
Moreover, the anorexic
is also, consciously or unconsciously a great repudiation of her own
femininity, which is why most of them have problems with their periods or
suffer from amenorrhea. They are afraid of "curves", the female
symbol and bulging bellies, a symbol of motherhood. "I'm afraid of my
body, form, my sexual energy".
In their relationships
with others there is some hypocrisy, desire to attract attention,
self-centeredness, manipulation and fear of closeness, intimacy and family
warmth so it tends to asceticism and solitude.
Recommendations to
recover physical, emotional and spiritual health:
You cannot help these
people advising them or forcing them to eat, because it is precisely where they
are fleeing from, the corporeal, physical. They reject it because it symbolizes
evil, the unclean.
However, we can help by
trying them to behave authentically, to be honest with themselves.
They need to integrate
the physical part in their Beings and stop living with ideals because it makes
they cannot live reality correctly. The human being is a whole-body, soul and
spirit. Separation is not possible,
although we believe that.
Matter is part of creation with the same value as
the spiritual aspect, it is our duty to take our spiritual being to the
physical, and this is not possible repressing this condition or running away
from it.
The anorexic person must accept herself, her
femininity, her longing for love, sex and admit her egocentricity.
She needs to change as soon as possible the
perception of her mother and understand that has always done the best she could
and can have their fears and limitations, like any human being. If she accepts
her mother and emotionally nourish way, she learns to accept the woman in her
and recover the taste for life and food.
If we begin to admit ourselves as we are, we will
have taken the first step toward health, toward life. Acceptance is the first
step. Then, integrating them and living because this is the only way to achieve
the halfway point, the balance between asceticism and desires.
Suggestions:
Talk to the mother, clarify and express her
feelings.
Do not feel obligated, under any circumstances,
to give explanations to the mother.
If you have no choice, stay away from the mother
to live your life fully.
Statements:
"I feel safe".
"I love myself and am happy. I am a
wonderful person".
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