Saturday, 9 May 2020

FIBROMYALGIA, emotional and spiritual meaning:

From Latin fiber, symbolically means "family ties" Mio - from the Greek- muscle and algia = pain.
Fibromyalgia is considered a controversial diagnosis and some authors affirm that it should not be considered as a disease due, among other reasons, to the lack of abnormalities in the physical examination, objective laboratory tests or medical imaging studies to confirm the diagnosis.
Fibromyalgia is a group of poorly understood musculoskeletal symptoms and disorders characterized primarily by extreme fatigue, persistent pain, stiffness of varying intensity of the muscles, tendons, and a wide range of other psychological symptoms. Such as trouble sleeping, morning stiffness, headaches, and memory problems, sometimes called "blackouts," that often impede people's routine functioning.
It is a disorder present in approximately 3 to 6 percent of young women, commonly between the ages of 20 and 50.
One thing to note, because it is a poorly understood symptom, fibromyalgia sufferers feel that others do not believe them because the pain is not seen. It is an inner suffering; it is the disease of the family fibers.
Devaluation conflict, coupled with another conflict of powerlessness plus a feeling of injustice.
What is fibromyalgia for? To do nothing, because the things I did were not recognized.
I have a feeling of injustice, guilt and helplessness, for not being able to do anything about an issue. "I can't with my life; I don't know what to do"
Have you been unfairly blamed or someone in your family blamed for something they did not do and you have not been able to do anything about it?
“I feel trapped as if I were in a network and with a great helplessness of not being able to change this situation that I have to live in and this makes me feel devalued.
And besides, it is as if I was obliged to stay here, because I have no possibilities of doing something different”
"I can't separate, I can't find a way out in my work, and everything in my life is claustrophobic", "I can't move, I don't have the freedom to choose"
People with fibromyalgia are locked in their family relationships.
On the one hand, they like to live with the family and be part of it, feel loved and understood, and on the other hand, they feel that the family forces or prevents them from making their life. They feel that it is due to them, that you should give them explanations, ask for their permission, share everything with them, etc.
At times, they may even feel "compelled" to share with someone in the family who is hurting them.
 This is called the Double Obligation conflict: "I find myself in a double family commitment", "I owe fidelity to my family, but this bothers me", "I go to the person I love, but at the same time is my executioner", "I want to express my opinion, but I do not grant myself the right, the family thinks differently", "I love this relative, but he hurts me and I feel powerless to walk away"
Another situation that can cause fibromyalgia is experiencing 4 simultaneous conflicts and all at the family level:
Direction Conflict: Conflict for having chosen the wrong direction, for being on a bad track, be it real, imaginary or symbolic. 
I feel devalued for not being able to find the right path. 
"The direction I am taking in my life does not satisfy me"
"What am I doing here?" "I am lost, out of the herd, so... when someone is lost it is best to stay still"
It affects the adrenal cortex, which stops producing cortisol to help me overcome the stress of being wrong.
I don't know what to do; I don't know where to go.
They are people who will not accept the solutions, for them the obligations are superior to their own lives.
Devaluation Conflict: we have blocks to convert inner impulses into outer activities:
"Devaluation conflict with what I do or stop doing"
“If I move to the side, I'm not okay; if I move towards the other, I am not well either, therefore, I do not move”., "I can't handle this; it's too much for me"
Conflict of family contact imposed: having to assume, do or be with a specific person or situation.
I must take care of.... being with.... living with....
Fear of death: Another important conflict that can exist behind fibromyalgia is the "fear of death", but not of physical death, but of the death of one's own "identity". There is a feeling that you do not belong to your own family or that your family does not help you.
"I feel like I'm dying, my family doesn't support me, I don't belong to my family."
Conflict of guilt: Have you been blamed for something or someone blamed for something they did not do and you have not been able to do anything about it?
Events that we should look for in our ancestors, in the family tree:
- Death of a child for unknown reasons with misunderstanding of the mother (there was no mourning).
-Pregnancies as a result of incest.
-Confinement of the father in prison and as a consequence the family falls apart.
-Powerless and strongly devalued woman in the face of the (love) deceptions of her husband.
- Separation from children with helplessness (not being able to see them anymore).
Fibromyalgia sufferers are overly helpful and responsible people. 
The problem is that in their eagerness to serve others (family members), they hurt themselves. 
They are people who do favour even if no one appreciates them, and who are able to stop living their lives to serve other members. 
Even, sometimes, despite being the ones who do most of the housework, they are looked down upon, criticized, etc.

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1 comment:

  1. Again, darling Joman, amazingly correct. I notice in my practice that people with fybromyalgia think (like the whole western society and the New Age movement) that you always need to be kind and warm and loving. THese people are made to be cold/distantial, goal oriented and taking responsibility for success (!) and be a grown up. So, yeah, cut family contact. They serve the world with those qualities. Interesting.
    Thank you again so much,
    Annamiek

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