From Latin fiber, symbolically
means "family ties" Mio - from the Greek- muscle and algia = pain.
Fibromyalgia is considered a
controversial diagnosis and some authors affirm that it should not be
considered as a disease due, among other reasons, to the lack of abnormalities
in the physical examination, objective laboratory tests or medical imaging
studies to confirm the diagnosis.
Fibromyalgia is a group of
poorly understood musculoskeletal symptoms and disorders characterized
primarily by extreme fatigue, persistent pain, stiffness of varying intensity
of the muscles, tendons, and a wide range of other psychological symptoms. Such
as trouble sleeping, morning stiffness, headaches, and memory problems,
sometimes called "blackouts," that often impede people's routine
functioning.
It is a disorder present in
approximately 3 to 6 percent of young women, commonly between the ages of 20
and 50.
One thing to note, because it
is a poorly understood symptom, fibromyalgia sufferers feel that others do not
believe them because the pain is not seen. It is an inner suffering; it is the
disease of the family fibers.
Devaluation conflict, coupled
with another conflict of powerlessness plus a feeling of injustice.
What is fibromyalgia for? To
do nothing, because the things I did were not recognized.
I have a feeling of injustice,
guilt and helplessness, for not being able to do anything about an issue. "I
can't with my life; I don't know what to do"
Have you been unfairly blamed
or someone in your family blamed for something they did not do and you have not
been able to do anything about it?
“I feel trapped as if I were
in a network and with a great helplessness of not being able to change this
situation that I have to live in and this makes me feel devalued.
And besides, it is as if I was
obliged to stay here, because I have no possibilities of doing something
different”
"I can't separate, I
can't find a way out in my work, and everything in my life is claustrophobic",
"I can't move, I don't have the freedom to choose"
People with fibromyalgia are
locked in their family relationships.
On the one hand, they like to
live with the family and be part of it, feel loved and understood, and on the
other hand, they feel that the family forces or prevents them from making their
life. They feel that it is due to them, that you should give them explanations,
ask for their permission, share everything with them, etc.
At times, they may even feel
"compelled" to share with someone in the family who is hurting them.
This is called the Double Obligation conflict:
"I find myself in a double family commitment", "I owe fidelity
to my family, but this bothers me", "I go to the person I love, but
at the same time is my executioner", "I want to express my opinion,
but I do not grant myself the right, the family thinks differently", "I
love this relative, but he hurts me and I feel powerless to walk away"
Another situation that can
cause fibromyalgia is experiencing 4 simultaneous conflicts and all at the
family level:
Direction Conflict: Conflict for having chosen the wrong direction, for
being on a bad track, be it real, imaginary or symbolic.
I feel devalued for
not being able to find the right path.
"The direction I am taking in my
life does not satisfy me"
"What am I doing
here?" "I am lost, out of the herd, so... when someone is lost it is
best to stay still"
It affects the adrenal cortex,
which stops producing cortisol to help me overcome the stress of being wrong.
I don't know what to do; I
don't know where to go.
They are people who will not
accept the solutions, for them the obligations are superior to their own lives.
Devaluation Conflict: we have blocks to convert inner impulses into outer
activities:
"Devaluation conflict
with what I do or stop doing"
“If I move to the side, I'm
not okay; if I move towards the other, I am not well either, therefore, I do
not move”., "I can't handle this; it's too much for me"
Conflict
of family contact imposed: having to assume, do or be
with a specific person or situation.
I must take care of.... being
with.... living with....
Fear
of death: Another important conflict that can exist behind
fibromyalgia is the "fear of death", but not of physical death, but
of the death of one's own "identity". There is a feeling that you do
not belong to your own family or that your family does not help you.
"I feel like I'm dying,
my family doesn't support me, I don't belong to my family."
Conflict
of guilt: Have you been blamed for something or someone blamed
for something they did not do and you have not been able to do anything about
it?
Events
that we should look for in our ancestors, in the family tree:
- Death of a child for unknown
reasons with misunderstanding of the mother (there was no mourning).
-Pregnancies as a result of
incest.
-Confinement of the father in
prison and as a consequence the family falls apart.
-Powerless and strongly
devalued woman in the face of the (love) deceptions of her husband.
- Separation from children
with helplessness (not being able to see them anymore).
Fibromyalgia sufferers are
overly helpful and responsible people.
The problem is that in their eagerness
to serve others (family members), they hurt themselves.
They are people who do
favour even if no one appreciates them, and who are able to stop living their
lives to serve other members.
Even, sometimes, despite being the ones who do
most of the housework, they are looked down upon, criticized, etc.
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Again, darling Joman, amazingly correct. I notice in my practice that people with fybromyalgia think (like the whole western society and the New Age movement) that you always need to be kind and warm and loving. THese people are made to be cold/distantial, goal oriented and taking responsibility for success (!) and be a grown up. So, yeah, cut family contact. They serve the world with those qualities. Interesting.
ReplyDeleteThank you again so much,
Annamiek